[afc wimbledon]

Your problem isn't that your ex is a psycho, its that you had a kid with her.

I'm going to really bag on you here, and I apologise as this is a hockey forum and all, and I also know how tough dealing with an ex can be, but your problems pale into insignificance in comparison with your kids, they have had to grow up without, thus far, a responsible set of parents that can pull together to bring them up.

I have spent my working life as a child care worker, addictions specialist and foster parent trying to undo the random damage people do when they bring kids into the world with out a plan.

You want to put some of Humpty back together again here is what you have to do, you put your kid before everything else, no more girlfriends in the house, no living with anyone, no having them babysit your kid while you play hockey etc, basically you likely be single until your boy has grown up.
You look after you son ideally half the week, you pay your ex what the court says you have to pay her every month, even if you can barely afford baked beans on toast for dinner.
You picked her so you have to put up with whatever crap she throws at you without saying a thing back, ideally you are friends, at worst you pretend to be her friend until your boy is 19.

There is nothing you can do about your kid in Australia, basically unless he is lucky with whichever guy his mum brings home or has a good granddad he is growing up without a dad, which is bull#### that no kid deserves.

As to what do you do about your crazy ex? nothing, you take it with a smile and try to keep her happy as best you can, your kids well being depends on it.