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Originally Posted by Flashpoint
I think I see the problem.
No, really. If that is your attitude when you are out dating, you're going to have problems. You're going to get out of dating, whatever emotions and attitudes you're willing to invest into it.
And ask yourself honestly - do you really believe there aren't a plethora of women in Calgary who are good, honest, caring women looking for companionship? Far more numerous then there are "gold diggers"?
You need to put yourself out there, and expect you're going to get back exactly what you give out.
Setting a "goal" of being married by 30 seems pretty short sighted to me. You should have a goal of being married when you meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, not on some pre-determined timeline.
(Unless you want your wife to have 9 kids before she's too old or something).
I used E-harmony, and met my wife when I was 34. She was 37. We've gotten along like a house on fire ever since. There was no secret to it. We just needed to meet, and be honest and open with each other.
So, no, you don't need to worry that you aren't married yet. I can guarantee there is a perfect woman for you out there looking just as hard for you as you are for her.
Make sure you're in the right mindset on the day you meet her!
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I know there are good women in this city looking for campanionship but i just havent come across any. The ones who I meet who are nice and real are either married or in a relationship - figures.
Ive tried eharmony for a year about a year ago and it was a complete waste of time and money for me. Wasted at least a couple hundred dollars on it. I never got any solid connections out of it. Ran into a lot of girls with serious issues or from what ive found, they just were on it to play the field and werent serious. But its great that it worked for you!
Ive also tried lavalife and plentyoffish in the past and same thing. POF to me is a garbage site, i discontinued my membership years ago. Nothing but flakes and superficial pre-madonnas on there.
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Originally Posted by taco.vidal
An obvious problem is that when you get into your 30s theres less single women in your immediate age range. You can always date younger but that may mean trying to find women outside of your normal social circle since most people have friends within a close range of their own age. Finding a 30+ single woman without baggage (kids, divorce, psycho ex-husband, overall whack job) isn't easy.
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Thats exactly it! Its much harder to find women in your age range when in your 30s. I want one who has a career, wants to have kids and get married eventually. One who is NOT into clubs and getting high. Thats why i prefer 25 and up. ive dated the young girls in the past and Ive learned theres just too many differences in a girls mindset in her late teens-early 20s to a girl in her late 20s-mid 30s. Young girls just dont have the life experiences and perception that older ones do due to their lack of experience and familiarity. Besides young girls arent looking for marriage, they want to play the dating game, go party and go to college. They want to have fun in life and the last thing on their mind is wanting to settle down with someone. Also a guy dating a much younger girl will always give a bad impression to others. others will look down on you and question why youre dating a girl so young.
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Originally Posted by MoneyGuy
Clueless boy, are you wealthy? Serious question.
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Not at all. But it seems I have a lot of toys that women like - nice car, nice clothes, nice electronics (tvs, computer, etc).