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Originally Posted by Cluelessboy
Hi I ask this because usually when someone is in their 30's, theyre in the process of getting married and having kids, starting a family (if not already). Im almost 31 and have been single for 2.5 years now (I wont get into that right now, but im finding it very difficult to meet a nice woman in this city, for example, one whos not a gold digger).
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I think I see the problem.
No, really. If that is your attitude when you are out dating, you're going to have problems. You're going to get out of dating, whatever emotions and attitudes you're willing to invest into it.
And ask yourself honestly - do you really believe there aren't a plethora of women in Calgary who are good, honest, caring women looking for companionship? Far more numerous then there are "gold diggers"?
You need to put yourself out there, and expect you're going to get back exactly what you give out.
Setting a "goal" of being married by 30 seems pretty short sighted to me. You should have a goal of being married when you meet someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, not on some pre-determined timeline.
(Unless you want your wife to have 9 kids before she's too old or something).
I used E-harmony, and met my wife when I was 34. She was 37. We've gotten along like a house on fire ever since. There was no secret to it. We just needed to meet, and be honest and open with each other.
So, no, you don't need to worry that you aren't married yet. I can guarantee there is a perfect woman for you out there looking just as hard for you as you are for her.
Make sure you're in the right mindset on the day you meet her!