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Originally Posted by Cluelessboy
When I was in college my goal was to get married by 30.  |
My goal was to be a Billionaire by 30.....You worry too much.
Being 32 and single is a bit more stressful than being 28 and single I suppose, but its not that big of a deal. Here are two realizations/thoughts that set my mind at ease (on this topic anyways!)
1. I know a couple of guys (Both in late forties) that have become first time fathers in recent years. The reality is that being 30ish in 1975 (my Dad) isn't much different than being 40ish in 2011. These guys live well, have a balanced life, and will be perfectly capable of 'Playing catch' with their kids. And not to judge my other friends/colleagues, but these two guys are definitely the "Proudest Papas" that I know. Bottom line.....we have more time nowadays.
2. Of the people I know that have gotten divorced (sadly, many of them), the
majority of them got married in their early-to-mid-twenties. Generally speaking, those who got married later on appear (to me) happier. I assume that this has to do with maturity and life experience.....two things that I'm sure help sustain a strong and healthy marriage. My Uncle is WAY happier than I've ever known him to be......married his 2nd wife a few years ago (in his early 50's). Bottom line.....you'll probably have a better shot at long term happiness today than you did yesterday.
Last thought on the subject - get out of your head. You're probably sabotaging yourself a lot more than helping!