I think advocating for having winners and losers is fine so long as the parents are responsible enough to raise their kids to still count on their love and support in any result.
I don't have kids but I have seen some of my peers grow up in families where love and respect at home were earned on the field/ice or in the classroom and eventually it had a very negative effect in adulthood. For those kids who were apt to winning, when they finally reached the point in life where there were people smarter, faster, stronger, better they fell into an existential crisis because their whole identitiy had been based on 'winning' and now they were 'losing' and none of the people they surrounded themselves with cared about them anymore. For those kids who weren't winners as children, they never really amounted to anything as I doubt they had the self esteem or support system to pick up and try to be good at something.
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