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Originally Posted by Wormius
Agreed. I used "sympathy" intentionally. I haven't felt like roughing up my children because they cried or didn't do what I wanted them too. Maybe that thought occurs in some people who can't cope. I don't think a reasonably sane, adult parent would think those things unless they had mental health issues.
I also don't agree with comments that suggest that if you don't feel like resorting to violence that it somehow means you must not have been the primary caregiver or you didn't do any work raising the child yourself. That just seems like a defense mechanism for justifying their own feelings. Which is fine, just don't say that say that I have to feel that way or else I wasn't involved in raising my kids.
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Again there is a distinct difference between understanding why someone would do something, thinking of doing something and actually doing something. All we are talking about here is the first part. Before you have children, it is impossible to fathom how someone could do it. Once you have a child you kinda understand what would lead a weaker person to do it. That by no means makes it ok.