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Originally Posted by Northendzone
So I am looking to hear others experience with respect to coaching their child in a sport as I have been an assistant coach on my sons (he just turned 9) hockey team, and while I have enjoyed it, I have not enjoyed coaching my son and things have gotten to the point where I am ready to let my wife handle all the hockey related duties this year.
It is like my son does not trust me with respect to anything I tell him about hockey, and yet overtime I have been proven right - for example last night he was playing goal and he has gotten it into his head that he can get completely dressed by himself - so he goes to tie up his skates and he only pulls the top lace enough to make a bow - so i tell him that is not going to work very well and I asked him if I could help him by tieing the skates - I get told in no uncertain terms that he likes his skates like that and he'll be fine. So he gets on the ice, it was like watching a timbit player learn how to skate. he then gets home from practice and tells my wife that he had no fun because of his skates were too loose. It is like he feels i know nothing from nothing and he has no trust of me.....
I love hockey, and I feel that hockey drives a massive wedge in our relationship and because of this, I feel no joy when it is time for us to go to the rink together. I am to the point where I only want to be a chauffer to get him to the rink, or have my wife handle this stuff......
thoughts, comments, expereinces......
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No experience but from watching other people in the same situation, my advice would be to just take your son to the rink. If you have a passion for hockey and want to coach (and of course if you have the time), coach another team. Kids at that age (around 9 or so), want to do things by themselves or want help from people other then their parents. It is not worth it if it is driving a wedge in your relationship. You can still enjoy his games by simply watching him and yet still show your love for hockey by coaching another team.