The counter argument to "you live in an apartment, you shouldn't have a sub" is "you live in an apartment, you shouldn't expect complete silence".
If the neighbour wants that, then she should move into a house. There needs to be reasonableness on both sides. You can't expect country living in an apartment and at the same time you can't party like a rockstar. I think you are being reasonable here, she is not.
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