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Originally Posted by Daradon
Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, she alludes that a proposition like that within the confines of the situation (IE late at night, strange city, alone in an enclosed space) made her feel scared. I'm not sure how much of this is true and how much is to make her point, but it can be very hard for us guys to understand the fear a woman can have in situations like this.
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Maybe... there's been lots of times when I've been in a situation where I
felt afraid because of a situation that has been associated with violence or whatever.
However I knew my fear was irrational because while the chances of something happening in that situation were higher than in broad daylight in the middle of the street or something (all things being equal), but I also understood that the overall chances of something happening were quite low due simply to statistics of incidents of violent crime.
So while I felt fear, I didn't transfer that to every white/black/tall/fat/conservative/male/female/canine individual(s) as a potential threat.
And I have had things happen to me that could be considered to have conditioned me to be more fearful of certain situations.
But I'm not a girl so it could be different, I was hoping to find someone solidly in agreement with Watson to explain it.
Is it justified fear? Or is it like being a helicopter parent that lives in fear of abductions and goes to great lengths to that end when their child is far more likely to be harmed by an accident or poison or some such.
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Originally Posted by calf
I think for the woman, it isn't so much that 99% of of the time nothing will happen, but moreso, what could happen the other 1% of the time - to me, it's a basic self-preservation mechanism. Most women I know won't walk around alone downtown after dark, even though odds are nothing will happen either. Most women I know also won't go to the hotel room of a stranger they just met just a few minutes ago either just in case, or, because they aren't sex objects. Might be an unfair insinuation, but it's rational.
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I guess, though depends on that 1%, if it is even that high. If it was purely self preservation those same people shouldn't be anywhere near a car.