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Originally Posted by sergei_makarov
Recently, when we were talking about our arguments, etc. she said that sometimes, when she vents to me about her sisters, she'd rather I just listen and let her vent and not give her my opinion of her sisters and how unreasonable and immature they are being. Basically, she doesn't like to hear me speak ill of her sisters even though she is.
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Your GF just gave you the answer right there. It seems to be really difficult for men to just listen and not give their opinion - especailly when the women is complaining about someone who the guy doesn't like either - but often, all she wants is someone to listen to her. If she and the sister were really close growing up, she might not be able to vent to her girlfriends, as they might be friends with the sister too.
Besides - it's a natural instinct to be protective of your family. Think about your family - surely someone in your family (or a close friend) drives you crazy at some point. But - even if that same person drives your GF crazy for the same reason, if she is constantly reminding you that she doesn't like that person and that person drives her crazy, it's going to get to you after awhile.
It might seem like a double standard for her to complain about her family - and then not want you to - but really, it's her family, she can say what she wants - but at the same time she still loves them dearly.
As for dealing with the sister - I would suggest killing her with kindness. Be nice to her, be your fun, caring self, remember her birthday and continue to grow your relationship with her husband. Even if the sister nevers really warms up to you - your GF will notice the effort and appreciate it.