I'm in the midst of doing pretty much the same thing. Our plan is to do ICF in the basement and that's it. We haven't decided on ICF for the party wall for the duplex we're building.
I've seen the SIPs (Structural Insulated Panels) stuff before and I'm not sure about it. It's all fabricated at another location (the people I talked to had it fabricated in Vancouver) and then assembled at your construction site. We discounted it on the basis of cost and the lead time.
By far the biggest energy efficiency issue is windows. I've been reading some books on that and basically it's suggested that you have as many windows as you can on the Southern exposure and try to create a heat sink in the south part of the building, main floor only, to regulate the temperature in the house. So for example, we'll likely use double pane windows in the Southern windows, and triple pane in the Northern exposure.
That doesn't necessarily answer your question, but we considered it and thought it wasn't really worth it.
Some reading:
http://www.sips.org/