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BigBrodieFan · 01-31-2011, 08:51 AM

Sometimes I shake my head and wonder what the heck parents are thinking when it comes to discipline, and then sometimes I wonder what the heck happened to being able to discipline your child.

I am 36, I went to Catholic school, we were strapped when we acted out of line. Could have been anything from swearing to looking the wrong way. I think it was abusive and I think that the 'guilt punishment' was ridiculous. I walked on eggshells, and I always thought I would burn in hell for everything.

I NEVER spanked my youngest son. I did spank my older one a couple of times, but my youngest one went to school one day and got in trouble for talking in class, and the teacher told him she was going to call home and talk to his mother. My son panicked and told her that if she did call home, his mom and dad would 'smash his head into the carpet and give him a black eye.' The teacher reported this to DFS (children's aide) and I had a knock on my door that afternoon.

Of course, the social worker came in my house and talked to my son, knew he was lying immediately when he started to cry and said he had lied because he didn't want the teacher to call home. He had never been in any kind of trouble, and not thinking (he was about 8 at the time), he was looking for a way to simply not have the phone call home. When she asked him what would have really happened if mom and dad got called, he said 'They might have taken my xbox away.'

I think at times, that some kids feel empowered these days, and parents have their hands tied when it comes to punishing their children. (I don't in ANY WAY condone beating children of course, I just think a lot of kids get away with more than I ever did (or thought about doing).

01-31-2011, 08:51 AM	#34
BigBrodieFan Franchise Player Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: H-Town, Texas Exp:	Sometimes I shake my head and wonder what the heck parents are thinking when it comes to discipline, and then sometimes I wonder what the heck happened to being able to discipline your child. I am 36, I went to Catholic school, we were strapped when we acted out of line. Could have been anything from swearing to looking the wrong way. I think it was abusive and I think that the 'guilt punishment' was ridiculous. I walked on eggshells, and I always thought I would burn in hell for everything. I NEVER spanked my youngest son. I did spank my older one a couple of times, but my youngest one went to school one day and got in trouble for talking in class, and the teacher told him she was going to call home and talk to his mother. My son panicked and told her that if she did call home, his mom and dad would 'smash his head into the carpet and give him a black eye.' The teacher reported this to DFS (children's aide) and I had a knock on my door that afternoon. Of course, the social worker came in my house and talked to my son, knew he was lying immediately when he started to cry and said he had lied because he didn't want the teacher to call home. He had never been in any kind of trouble, and not thinking (he was about 8 at the time), he was looking for a way to simply not have the phone call home. When she asked him what would have really happened if mom and dad got called, he said 'They might have taken my xbox away.' I think at times, that some kids feel empowered these days, and parents have their hands tied when it comes to punishing their children. (I don't in ANY WAY condone beating children of course, I just think a lot of kids get away with more than I ever did (or thought about doing).