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CaptainCrunch · 01-18-2011, 09:36 PM

Somehow I get the gut feeling that this is spin control. Mom came across as an unsympathetic frankly monster, and they convinced the daughter to do it.

On the music front I played piano for 10 years growing up, my parents finally let me stop because frankly I didn't get a lot of enjoyment out of it in the end. Besides I tormented them by learning one song and playing it for 2 hours a day.

At the end of the day, do I have regrets, nope, as I've stated, my dad pushed me hard, not in terms of studies, or in terms of sports, but in terms of being a good well developed person with the ability to sense right from wrong and make tough choices.

On the sports front to be honest, my dad hated my playing style because I was a bit of a goon, on the studies part I was a spectacularly average to below average student, but that doesn't mean my mind went to waste, I found passions and pursued them, I think I'm ahead of the curve in terms of history and especially military history, I was amazing at biology, and very good at computers.

But I didn't need a parent to stand behind me and mentally whip me, or reject a birthday card because I didn't put enough effort into it.

I have this gut feeling with this girl that her mother will never believe that her achievements will ever be good enough, I have a feeling that this girl was never truly allowed to spread her wings and learn what kind of an individual she is, and when she leaves the nest she's going to have the fall down episodes that a lot of us had in our early to mid teens. I have a feeling that the first time that this girl runs into trouble or truly fails the last person she's going to go to is her mother.

Don't get me wrong, academics are hugely important, and I do have some regrets that my intellectual compass didn't stop spinning until after I was done. But the other equally important thing in growing up is to eventually hit the point where you can sit across the table from your parents and have a conversation as equals, it took a long time for me to do that with my dad because we were both bull headed and didn't reach an understanding for a long time, but thats the important key in everyones life where you can finally tell your parents that you don't need them to raise you anymore, but if I need advice your the first one I'm coming to. I don't see that kind of relationship with that girl, because the first time she f's up and tells her mom, she's going to get pounded down and told that she's failed.

But I just don't buy this love letter.

Sorry

01-18-2011, 09:36 PM	#133
CaptainCrunch Norm! Join Date: Jun 2002 Exp:	Somehow I get the gut feeling that this is spin control. Mom came across as an unsympathetic frankly monster, and they convinced the daughter to do it. On the music front I played piano for 10 years growing up, my parents finally let me stop because frankly I didn't get a lot of enjoyment out of it in the end. Besides I tormented them by learning one song and playing it for 2 hours a day. At the end of the day, do I have regrets, nope, as I've stated, my dad pushed me hard, not in terms of studies, or in terms of sports, but in terms of being a good well developed person with the ability to sense right from wrong and make tough choices. On the sports front to be honest, my dad hated my playing style because I was a bit of a goon, on the studies part I was a spectacularly average to below average student, but that doesn't mean my mind went to waste, I found passions and pursued them, I think I'm ahead of the curve in terms of history and especially military history, I was amazing at biology, and very good at computers. But I didn't need a parent to stand behind me and mentally whip me, or reject a birthday card because I didn't put enough effort into it. I have this gut feeling with this girl that her mother will never believe that her achievements will ever be good enough, I have a feeling that this girl was never truly allowed to spread her wings and learn what kind of an individual she is, and when she leaves the nest she's going to have the fall down episodes that a lot of us had in our early to mid teens. I have a feeling that the first time that this girl runs into trouble or truly fails the last person she's going to go to is her mother. Don't get me wrong, academics are hugely important, and I do have some regrets that my intellectual compass didn't stop spinning until after I was done. But the other equally important thing in growing up is to eventually hit the point where you can sit across the table from your parents and have a conversation as equals, it took a long time for me to do that with my dad because we were both bull headed and didn't reach an understanding for a long time, but thats the important key in everyones life where you can finally tell your parents that you don't need them to raise you anymore, but if I need advice your the first one I'm coming to. I don't see that kind of relationship with that girl, because the first time she f's up and tells her mom, she's going to get pounded down and told that she's failed. But I just don't buy this love letter. Sorry __________________ My name is Ozymandias, King of Kings; Look on my Works, ye Mighty, and despair!