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Originally Posted by troutman
A good counsellor won't be manipulated. In fact, a female counsellor knows all the games some women play. There is a big breakthrough in counselling that happens when people realize it is not all the other person's fault.
Chances are, old dogs can't learn new tricks, but I think couples should give thier best effort before giving up.
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How old is this dog? I learned much from my first serious relationship. So did she. We didn't get back together, so I can't say whether or not that is a good idea (though my instinct says no), but really, if both parties are really getting the feeling that maybe there's still something there, there's no harm in trying.
I'd say that the most important variable here is how long you've been broken up. Maybe I missed that detail, but I hope it's longer than a year. A three month break up isn't a break up, it's a break. Nothing changes in three months. Even a year might be pushing it. I saw soomeone post three years. I can see that being a sufficient amount of time for people to really get their heads on straight.