I think if the love is there, and if YOU feel like you've changed, and maybe willing to accept her for all who she is now, and also accept that she may not have entirely changed since than, give it a shot. You have to understand that you are the only person who can change yourself, through your outlook on life to your attitude. You do not have any control on what she is like, how she changed, etc. You have to be willing to accept her for everything, and hopefully you're new life experiences that have shaped you up until this point will have a positive effect on her, and vice versa with her experiences.
My wife and I broke up before we got married 2 years ago, after dating for 8 years. It was the best thing that could have happened to either of us, as we grew as individuals, and were able to come back together a while later with new outlooks on what we wanted out of our relationship. I don't think our relationship would have worked out had we not learned to grow outside of the relationship.
Don't get back together for the sake of it, because you are afraid you won't find someone else. Problems that you guys had prior to breaking up will surface immediately if you go back into it with that attitude. It's better to be happy alone than miserable together.
Relationships are a leap of faith. You both go in with the best intentions, and need to put in all the work to make it blossom. So i think if you feel it's right, get back together. I'm sure you know it'll take hard work and dedication, and you guys will have lots of downs, but if you can follow those up with lots of ups and work through it, you will be happy no matter what.
Just my two cents
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