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Originally Posted by Bouw N Arrow
3 months is hard to believe. I hear you all. But there are broads and there are ones who really touch you. I mean, I don't expect it to take me longer than a couple of weeks to get over her if it doesn't work out but its just something I want to do. My sister died this past September and she was really there for me.. it's easy to say 3 months but when someone is a rock for you after knowing each other for a week and then 3 great months? It's not that easy brolies.
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I was just wondering, after reading your posts, you mentioned that your sister just passed away and that "she was really there for you"... do you think this girl maybe a rebound for that loss? I hope this doesn't comes across as an insult, but I really mean it, do you think it could be that you are afraid to lose this girl who you just met 3 months ago (around the time your sister passed away, if I m getting it right) because you may lose the "support" you once had from your sister? I am not saying you see your sister in her or something, but you seem to really care for her and clearly you are concerned about losing her and you are looking for an outlet to get over the potential pain of loss again.
I also wanted to ask are you sure that you and this girl are on the same page? You are asking everyone here for a place to travel because you may get dumped, if there is that uncertainty then I think there is a lack of communication and assurance between you two.
And you said that her grades have been affected after you started seeing each other.. I will agree with one of the posters here that you should give her space and all, but I think it's ultimately her who needs to work on her time management (unless you are smothering her .... )
As for her being asian, I don't know how strict her parents are, but since she is a grad student and 27 years old, then I agree that she needs to figure things out for herself. Knowing asian parents and their cultural values, you have to put your parents wishes ahead of everything, especially if you are a girl you feel more pressured to do so. All I am going to say, again, if she is on the same page as you, she will have to stick up for herself.
I am not sure if this post will help you, because it seems there are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself first.
If the thigns said above sounds like bunch of junk, ... I suggest going to a non-relaxing place, I don't know why people go to beaches in some exotic country, I think that will just keep me thinking "oh i wish so and so were here..." and booze is never the answer ... I will just take on some adrenalin filled activity... join the army (j/k) ... how about skydiving?