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Old 12-05-2010, 10:37 AM   #36
Phaneuf3
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For what it's worth, here's a child abuse victim's take on the situation (stolen from reddit)
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I'm 28, a survivor of child abuse, and I actually appreciate the trite little campaign. Now, I'm a fairly pragmatic person and when I first read the premise I had a "You can't be serious" reaction. To an extent, I still do. But, as folks started changing their user pics I started to notice that I was not only inordinately pleased to see it, but also got hit with a bit of catharsis. Some navel gazing later, I figured out why.
Once you are abused as a kid, especially sexually, it is a label that sticks with you. It is a conversation that you will have to have with every serious partner you ever have, and inevitably comes out to your nearest and dear at some point. And every time you tell folks and book end the reveal with "I'm OK now, really" you are hit with this look that is a strange cocktail of pity, concern, anger, and helplessness. Or, a blank stare. And then you are told how strong you are for over coming whatever it was you lived through when in actuality you feel like you had no other choice.
Those reactions, while empathic and meant to comfort/connect, make you feel like no matter how far you've come you will always be somehow defect or broken because of what happened to you years ago.
It is depressing as hell.
So for once, folks are talking about child abuse and pairing it with something completely frivolous, and it sparked a strange minor sense relief in me. For once what happened to me is not paired with statistics or the aforementioned reactions. It's being paired with Rainbow Brite, Hey Arnold, ReBoot, etc, and that is an odd comfort. It makes me think that maybe that initial reaction doesn't run as deep as it seems. It makes me think that maybe folks who know don't see me as damaged goods or put me on some asinine pedestal.
I know it probably doesn't make sense, and I certainly don't speak for other abuse survivors, but I figured I'd throw my differing opinion out there.
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