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Originally Posted by Bleeding Red
It really depends on how you plan to raise your children and what you think their future may hold. I suspect that you: married "reform", are not planning on sending you kids to Jewish school, do not expect them to move to Israel, do not expect you kid to become an observant Jew, do not expect you kid to marry a more observant Jew, live life mostly on the secular, etc. If most of this is the case, then Mom should have no problem with your position. The same Rabbi who married you should be more then willing to bar mitzvah your kid. It is these types of life cycle choices that are rarely discussed until after the fact and make inter-faith marriages a challenge.
I have heard of cases where converts or newly observant Jews chose to get circumcised later in life, but that was their choice.
I suggest seeking out a local Reform Rabbi and your spiritual guide (pastor/priest/imam) and talking to them about it - both on your own and with your wife.
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I wouldn't bother with asking a spiritual leader - you already know what the Rabbi is going to say, for example. Besides, this isn't a spiritual issue, it's a medical one. I think you and your wife should ask a doctor, or show her one of the videos of a baby getting snipped and see what she thinks.
That said, did you have a conversation about this before you got married? I have a buddy who married a Jewish girl and she made it clear before they were married that she'd want to raise the kids Jewish, including circumcision. If your wife had the same conversation with you before you were married I think you might have to get your son snipped if you have one. (but you can still try to reason her out of it, lol)