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Originally Posted by Heckubus97
How's this for a dilemma:
I married a Jewish girl (I am not Jewish), and she has stated that should we have male children, they will have to be circumcised and have a Briss (a sacred rite). By Jewish law, our sons and daughters will be considered Jewish. I am not circumcised and I am against it in principle for many reasons (risk of infections, complications, it is medically unnecessary and traumatic for the child, etc), and definitely do not want it done to any possible sons.
If someone can get me out of this conundrum I will owe you big time. It's just a matter of time before the major blow out argument manifests itself, unless we have daughters. It's almost like riding a lion, at some point I will have (likely) to get off the thing.
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It really depends on how you plan to raise your children and what you think their future may hold. I suspect that you: married "reform", are not planning on sending you kids to Jewish school, do not expect them to move to Israel, do not expect you kid to become an observant Jew, do not expect you kid to marry a more observant Jew, live life mostly on the secular, etc. If most of this is the case, then Mom should have no problem with your position. The same Rabbi who married you should be more then willing to bar mitzvah your kid. It is these types of life cycle choices that are rarely discussed until after the fact and make inter-faith marriages a challenge.
I have heard of cases where converts or newly observant Jews chose to get circumcised later in life, but that was their choice.
I suggest seeking out a local Reform Rabbi and your spiritual guide (pastor/priest/imam) and talking to them about it - both on your own and with your wife.