What about simply purchasing a cell-phone for the family. Essentially a phone for her, but that she only has access to when she is not home. She would have to come and ask permission from one of you before taking it out. This would allow her to communicate with friends when she is not home, and more importantly communicate with you two.
When she is home, I would assume she has access to a computer and IMs all her friends that way.
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