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Originally Posted by 4X4
How is breaking up the same as failure? The whole reason for not getting married is because you're not entirely sure - yet.
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My point wasn't about failure so much as about wether a common law relationship IMO really tells you that you are ready.
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I don't mean to be a dick about this, but you're kind of overlooking my point. I've lived with a couple of girls, and I'm glad that I never gave in to my parents' pressure to go get married. If I did, I can guarantee that I'd be unhappy about the decision, knowing that it was too early/not going to work/was the wrong person/wasn't in love.
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I understand that some common law relationships don't work and no it's not a failure and nor is a marriage that ends in divorce. My fault for not being clear on that. Things can happen that you don't see coming like my sister finding her husband cheating with another woman.
I was merely trying to point out situations where partners aren't always willing to work things out. My parents had many a nasty fight in thier day but always found a way to work things out. maybe it's part of their generation - I don't know.
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Seriously, man. Have you ever broken up with someone? It's not "failure", it's life. Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment, living with someone is a way to determine whether that's the right person to marry.
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Yeah, i've broken up with someone. Just never lived common law with them. I've also never married because i'm too independant and am also not ready to make the commitment to make a marriage work.