Cheating is probably one of the worst things you can do in a relationship. It is totally betrayal of the trust that I think should be valued at the core of any relationship. If the relationship be casually dating, long term relationship, or perhaps more importantly marriage. Are there reasons that lead to cheating? Maybe, but that 'unhappiness' should be openly discussed within the relationship/marriage. To not do this, and then to spin a web of "it's okay because I wasn't happy" is an excellent example of how morally bankrupt some people are.
Over the last year or so I've been channeling my inner Hamlet and been the king (Danish Prince?) of introspection. One thing rings true, while I agree that the individual has the impetus to be the mechanism of one's happiness, when it comes to relationships two people are always involved. peter12 has every right to feel hurt and distraught. Will he get over it eventually? Yes. But the trust he had with his girlfriend was broken, and as I said before, that can't be explained away by a self admitted cheater who is willing to spread his artificial construct of justification.
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