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Old 11-06-2010, 11:07 AM   #101
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Don't take it out on her or yourself and realize that you deserve to be happy. You didn't do anything wrong. She just wasn't happy and thats ok too.
Yeah, being unhappy meant she was perfectly justified in cheating rather than being upfront about the issue. Or, alternatively, he's the aggrieved party and has every right to feel betrayed and angry, and maybe have her share a bit in the negative emotions she has engendered.

Sometimes when you make a bad choice, it doesn't end well. Telling yourself you didn't do anything wrong just means you're more likely to make another bad choice in the future and hurt someone again. Avoiding consequences by trying to get everyone to sit around in a circle singing hippy songs and pushing out positive vibes isn't forgiving or rational - it's just selfish.
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