Its a shame your kids arent older. My parents got divorced when me and my brothers were all over 14 so we were able to come and go between parents as we pleased. IMO this is the easiest for the kids (also partially because they are older and understand the situation more). It probably results in some hurt feelings on the part of one of the parents, but it definitely helped me a lot knowing I could choose who I wanted to live with rather than having some random judge who has no idea about our family dynamics tell me where to go.
But best of luck with the divorce, its not an easy situation. Also from a kids perspective don't be afraid to tell them the truth behind what happened when they're old enough to be mature and understand relationships a bit more.
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