[nickerjones]

This is pretty personal post but I have no support group and have no where to hear other stories or advice from people so I am posting here to see if anyone else has been in this situation.

I married my first wife in October when I was 22. The following February we were in a car accident in which she lost her life. She was young and all her organs were in good shape so we donated her organs. I know I received letters from the receipents but at the time it was way too soon and I was still grieving at the time. So whether I was mad at them , or to upset , or whatever I put the letters away and never thought twice about it.

fast forward to today: more than 6 yrs later
I am trying to find a charity to help out and so I was looking at organ donation charities since I have a personal connection. I came across a blog and it is apparently the lady who received my 1st wife's heart. She was also one of the people who wrote me. As I am reading through the blog I notice where she mentions writing her donor's husband but he never responded and never told the rest of her family. ( who lives a ways out of town from me and with whom I havent spoke with much since the accident). I felt a wave of horrible guilt come over me and have had a pretty bad morning.

My question is is there anyone who has dealt with something like this. Should I feel bad? Is it too late write back now ? I know this is very personal to some people and if it's to personal to post about feel free to PM me. Like I said I have no other support group or place to ask questions.