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Originally Posted by opendoor
I'm a little surprised at the reaction to ATR's posts. While I agree that's probably not the best course of action for this scenario, people are simply kidding themselves if they don't think they can be influenced by tactics like he's talking about.
There are tons of things like neurolinguistic programming and whatnot that people use in many situations (business, teaching, etc.) to influence others and exert control in situations. It's not a matter of making someone "fall for something" or tricking them, it's just using peoples' natural responses to situations to put yourself in the best position to succeed. There's nothing insidious or dishonest about it, it's just often one of the most efficient ways to do many things (make people like you, make people want to invest in your business, make people listen to you, etc.).
If people think they're above being influenced by such tactics because they're intelligent and mature, they're not being honest with themselves. Everyone has natural responses to different things that can be used by someone to help color your opinion of them. It doesn't mean we're stupid or insecure, just that we're humans.
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No there's nothing dishonest or insidious about appealing to people's basest instincts to exert control over them, nothing at all. You seem due for some introspection.
Of course, I'm influenced by people who use these tactics, but I realize it eventually and either ignore it for the person's better qualities, or if it's bad just not be friends with them. I try at all times to interact with my friends honestly, because I realize the shallowness and paranoia that comes with friendships where manipulation is rampant.