[MRCboicgy]

I won't reply to specific points, i appriciate what has been said. I appriciate seeing things from others' perspectives, esp from the parental ones. I guess I just needed some reassurement that it's ok to be meek and to take my lumps as the people around me are for the most part rather militant and when they see that someone is being kept down they are all for the stand up for your rights and fight back, but that's not me all the time. Words don't bother me, what they say to me, although hurting is really not the issue I guess. I feel they are trying to goad me into fighting, and with everyone around me pushing me to stand up to the man, I almost have, but I don't feel it's right. What kills me are the pressures they are putting on him, if I can smooth things over with them maybe they will ease up on him. Caring about someone this much is a new thing for me, this is a new level as my happiness is hasn't been higher, and i find myself feeling worse for what he has to go through and his worrying for me.

As for support, we both have counselors, and they have been helping us out alot, he has no family support as they will not let him tell his younger brother or the rest of the family, as even he is afraid of the reaction. There is just so much to deal with at times, and i don't feel its a bad thing getting as many views as possible as there is no one right answer, other than the belief/hope that love does conquor all