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Originally Posted by flames85
Are you a councillor? Because my parents went through a terrible divorce when i was younger. (not making excuses)...
Really appreciated your post!
I was scared to take the next step earlier on, when i was in college. But i made a mistake and learnt from it, and know i am ready now. The mistake helped me see what i had. I am only human.
And to all you knocking me for buying a promise ring, i did it because thats all i could afford! I just finished college, and i wanna show her how i am committed. Some of you understand, and some of you obviously haven't been though something this hard.
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Two points, first you really arn't really sure, just scared witless right now, so drop that line.
It doesn't mean you can't be commited, but you cannot be sure in the turmoil of the break up.
A few months down the road all the same fears you have from watching your parents go through hell may well come up again, in fact you are a classic male child of a lousy divorce, scared to be alone and scared of the pain a relationship might bring.
Second there is nothing you can 'do', it is unfair and foolish to try and 'fix' things, you need to be yourself, if she doesn't want who you are, so be it, breaking up isn't the worst thing in the world, in fact the pair of you would likely be better off with a few years apart doing some growing up.
My mate in the UK married his childhood sweetheart, everyone but me thought it was sweet and romantic, I thought they both needed to grow up some, a decade later she damn near destroyed him by leaving him for another guy, he had no experience to fall back on when it ended, and frankly neither did she when the other sleazy b***** started chatting her up at a low point in their marriage, if they had both been through some failed relationships it likley wouldn't have happened.