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Originally Posted by flamesfever
I agree, the word "commitment" seems to possibly be the problem, although you both seem to have started your relationship pretty young for today's standards.
I think being honest with her is the best approach. Perhaps telling her how you feel, and if commitment is the problem, why you feel this way. Is it due to something in your childhood experience?
You are also going to have to validate her feelings, and show a considerable amount of empathy and understanding.
I think two - two month breaks from each other at your ages, is not a big deal. You've obviously put up with each other much longer than a lot of married couples, and there must be something fairly positive to the relationship.
I guess I feel if you are meant for each other, you'll be together, and if not, you won't.
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Are you a councillor? Because my parents went through a terrible divorce when i was younger. (not making excuses)...
Really appreciated your post!
I was scared to take the next step earlier on, when i was in college. But i made a mistake and learnt from it, and know i am ready now. The mistake helped me see what i had. I am only human.
And to all you knocking me for buying a promise ring, i did it because thats all i could afford! I just finished college, and i wanna show her how i am committed. Some of you understand, and some of you obviously haven't been though something this hard.