[MRCboicgy]

Ok folks, I need some opinions other than my circle of friends and roommate (suomalainen on oilfans.com btw, hope he doesn't mind me mentioning that, yes i live with an oiler nut, he's a good guy, like a big bro) This is very personal, but my group of friends isn't that diverse, and i see a wide range of people on here in ages too (as my friends are all idealistic college students practically), so I'm throwing this out to get others points of view as mine tend to be myopic, and don't worry i realise this is the internet and i won't take anything negative personally.

My bf here in calgary of 5 months finally came out to his parents a few weeks ago, and well they are blaming me for "making him gay" fair enough, we all have different opinions on what it is to be so. My question is, without going into large details of the situation, how does one deal with the constant vitriolic things they say to me? They have told me to my face they hate me, they refuse to sit down and talk and acknowldge the fact i'm a human being, I get harrassing emails, they are making his life hell, and neither of us is in a position to escape for the time being, both being students(and his well to do family supporting him)?

I know it's hard for parents, mine are on 6th month of denial and such, i don't expect everyone to accept it, esp parents, but I just need some interpersonal advice--how do you deal with people? I've so far just lowered my head and taken my lumps, fired back a few harsh words(which i regret) and i mean i'm so lost, my friends, counsellor and everyone are telling me to keep fighting, etc but i don't think starting WWIII will help. I'm giving them space and time, but they are basically trying to break us up cause if i'm out of the picture their son will go back to being straight (verbatim quote: "he's not gay he's just lonely and being trendy") I really care about him, and the 'if you really care about him you'll go away' logic doesn't apply here

I'm gonna be gone most of the day, but suomi and i will read over anything anyone has to say this afternoon, pre BOA (speaking of WWIII in our place :P)

Thanks for your help, try not to focus on the gay side of things if you want, but more on the interpersonal side. sorry for giving your site another qweer-eye makeover Bingo.

Here goes nothing...*hits the Post button*