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Originally Posted by V
If you resent the fact that you get no breaks throughout years of raising kids, and you aren't doing anything about it, you are doing something wrong, or, as my post clearly states, you are in a crappy situation that you can't fix, such as you are nowhere near family, and do not have any friends that may be interested in swapping kids from time to time.
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Exactly, not everyone is in a position to be able to drop them off with family, or have friends that want to swap kids.
Or the possible resources aren't always up to the task. Some people have kids with higher needs and can't just drop them off with family or friends because those people aren't able to deal with it, or it can be tried but the parents have to be prepared to abandon their plans if it doesn't work out, which really doesn't benefit anything.
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Originally Posted by V
But honestly, don't complain about something if you don't want to do anything about it.
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As you say though sometimes you can't do anything about it, hence the description of it being hard (not impossible, not miserable). Sometimes there are things you can do but you can't see them because you're too busy just coping, I've been in that situation. Sometimes there are things you can do but getting them set up and the stresses and difficulties that go along with that are actually worse than not doing it at all. And yes sometimes it's easier to complain than it is to something, but even that's ok; complaining just releases some tension, it doesn't mean "I give up lets put the kids up for adoption".