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Originally Posted by Sliver
Depends on a lot of factors beyond your control like: - how difficult/independent your kid's nature is
- how much support you have from extended family to spell you off (I know peers that get one night off/week with their kids staying at a grandparent's house for 24 hours to people that get no time off ever)
- energy level - older parents (late 30s) have way less energy than younger parents (mid-20s) from what I've seen
- stress level - sometimes there are external stresses beyond your control that sap energy, leaving you with less energy to persue "me" time than would be ideal
- Many, many, many days - at least 50% but probably more - there is truly not time for "me" stuff ---> asses still have to wiped, food has to get cooked, laundry has to get done, bills have to get paid, baths, grocery shopping, house cleaning, etc. etc. etc.
So while the advice of people that don't have 0-5 year olds may be good advice, 9 times out of ten it's not practical, not realistic and just really annoying in its naivety. |
So is it good advice or annoyingly naieve? It can't be both. And I did say that advice on raising kids from those who aren't/haven't is silly, a mental health check from someone without kids can and does help contextualize the stress of the person suffering and can help them re-focus. Chances are they already know what they're asking and just need someone else to vocalize it for them.