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Originally Posted by peter12
I know a few stay-at-home moms who absolutely hate their lives. The reason being (seriously) is that they are completely uninteresting and self-absorbed people. None of them has an active intellectual life nor do they engage in the management of the home.
My mom stayed at home for 12 years to raise me and my three siblings. But she was more than just a bus driver and slave chef, she helped with our education, taking us to the libraries, to documentary-showings, taught us how to take care of our pets etc...
There is so much to being a mom beyond ferrying a bunch of kids to-and-fro school in your H3.
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Yeah but Peter you probably don't know what goes into raising really young kids from babies through their toddler years. You remember being a kid and hanging with your mom probably from around 5 and up, with maybe a few sporadic memories from 2-4. It's the 0-5 that is very difficult.
Also, I think it's even harder for intelligent people to some degree. It's a mind-numbing life (the first 5 years) in many ways, with days and nights completely filled with menial tasks (cleaning, laundry, cooking, appointments, etc.) all on very little sleep. There are few opportunities for intellectual stimuli. Why you see mothers on facebook is because they usually only have a few minutes at a time for themselves. There isn't time to engage with anything for more than a moment or two without being interrupted.
You can only really get how difficult it is by talking to somebody that is currently nuts-deep in it. From what I've seen, parents block it out once they are through it - I've got a 3 year-old and a 4 year-old so I'm half-way to the sweet bliss of toddler amnesia and I can't wait.