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Originally Posted by photon
This brings up a good point, you could even wait until after 20 weeks or so. It's not a pleasant thing to think about, but the miscarriage rate before then is non-trivial... I don't recommend new parents to tell everyone else about their news until after that.
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Over 30% of pregnancies miscarry in the first trimester, and often before the mother even knows she is pregnant. But after that 3 month mark the risk drops dramatically.
Also, as Photon said an amnio does carry some risk, so I'd be surprised if they would do one for a paternity test.
I also agree with Sylvanfan that the first few months are pretty hard on the mother, so quite likely the behaviour dissentower is perceiving is probably hormonal. So dissentower, I hope you don't read to much into her current state. Also, I have to imagine she is pretty scared, confused, and possibly embarrassed right now, which is going to be hard for everyone.
The best advice I've read in the last few pages is go see a councillor. While waiting too long to make a decision is never good, neither is rushing to make one too early.