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Originally Posted by dissentowner
Regardless I will be there for the kid, it is not his/her fault and I have to deal with the responsibility of that.
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I'm really glad to hear you say that, man. Honestly, I think the most important thing is to do is what is best for the child. They are blameless in the situation, and yet stand to suffer the most with no control over that. While I certainly believe that you need to take care of yourself, if you were selfish now, how would you feel about yourself later on in life? Doing what's easiest in the short term may not be what's best for you personally in the long haul.
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Originally Posted by Puxlut
Can you still live with her in a room mate capacity for the next three years while you go to school?
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Just my opinion, but I can't see that situation working out well. If they really are done as a couple, they need to tailor their time together to be as positive as possible for the sake of the child - both while living together and after that. Living together day in and day out could create lifelong vindictive bitterness that might have disappeared if they put the space they needed between themselves early on.
With respect to the paternity testing, you feel that she isn't the cheating type, on which I'll take your word for it. Of course, we always think of cheating as the thought-out, ongoing affair where one person sneaks around on the other. There is also the 'was pissed at my boyfriend, got drunk at the bar and had a stupid one night stand that I normally never would have' kind of cheating as well. I'm not passing any judgement on your girlfriend, just suggesting that it's worth thinking about whether that sort of situation is a possibility or not.