[Sylvanfan]

Yeah I remember those threads by hahastupidoilers. I still think they were intentionally staged because I like to believe people aren't that stupid. The result was so predictable he had to be jerking our chain.

Tragic sometimes how peopel who want kids in the worst way can't have their own, and than you get situations where people are not trying yet it happens.

I'll say this much from experience, the first trimester is the roughest for the woman. I know my wife felt horrible for most of it. If someone isn't feeling good and or is stressed out it may be making the situation that much tougher. Once the hormones settle down in a few more weeks, you may be able to have a more civil discussion on the topic. But if you think breaking up is something you have to do, than by all means ask for the paternity test but maybe wait 5 weeks. Don't put off the school thing though if you really want to do it. If there is a time in your kids life to be poor, the first years are it. Young kids are far happier to have loving and attentive parents than to have the coolest baby stuff and a nanny caring for them 24-7. Kids don't figure out that they're poor until they go to school!