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Originally Posted by Grunt
Because he has no reason to think the child isn't his, and it's a dbag move. Unless I had a good reason to believe that the woman was cheating on me, or insane / a liar, then it's a dick thing to suggest to a woman you've been with for two years.
If she is insane / a liar / potentially cheating, then yeah, sure, get the test.
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Who cares if it's emotionally insensitive? He's talking about a woman he clearly doesn't like and was planning on leaving anyways. The ramifications for his life if the kid isn't his are massive. The "damage done" to the relationship if it turns out to be his is negligible. The cost/benefit analysis leans heavily towards "get a paternity test". Especially because a lot of men are raising other mens kids these days:
Some call this paternity fraud. But a more accurate term is "paternal discrepancy." Paternity fraud emphasizes the financial aspect of the phenomenon, but paternal discrepancy (PD) describes the anomaly itself—the disconnect between what men think is true and the genetic reality. And research shows that it's a lot more common than we might believe.
After recently reviewing 67 studies on the subject, University of Oklahoma researchers found that PD rates tend to be much higher among men who have reason to believe there's been more than one dog in the yard. No surprise there. But leave out these men and you end up with a number that can safely be assumed to represent the rest of us. That number is 3.85 percent. Another review of 19 studies by a group at Liverpool John Moores University backs this up, putting the figure at 3.7 percent of dads. It may not seem like a lot—until you do the math. According to a 2005 U.S. Census Bureau report, there are 27,940,000 fathers nationwide with a child under 18. That means over a million guys out there are taking care of some other man's kid.
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