FR,
No worries man. It's a big step to admit this and a bigger one to post it on a message board. I hope the one thing you've got out of it this thread is that you're not alone with this issue. I hope the responses here show you that there are guys out there just like you who have stopped, are thinking of stopping and wish they could be where you are.
Being a 25-30 year old male and trying to stop drinking is one of the most difficult things in life to do. It's not going to be easy, but as others have said do the things that work for you to stop and try to ignore what everyone else says. I was met with a massive wall of opposition when I tried to stop (I also had tried three times before hand) with my friends. None of my buddies wanted to see the end of "overdrive" and for the beginning I felt really left out and alone. But over time you're true friends will comeback and for me a bunch of them are starting to wonder if maybe it's time for them to stop.
Also, you (and others on this thread) might want to check out the book - "The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome" by Wayne Kritsberg
http://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Alcoholics-Syndrome-Discovery
I read this book numerous time over the years I was quitting and it's a book that I'm going to give my wife to help understand the problem. It's not a religious book by any means, it's just a logical look at the lingering issues with anyone who grew-up in an Alcoholic Family and is now an adult.
I really can't recommend it enough. It's a comparative look at the differences between "normal families" and "alcoholic families" and does a great job of explaining why addicts act they way they do.
best of luck.