[Kipper is King]

I have a family member who was in a similar state. You have no idea how crushing it is to see someone you love destroy themselves with alcohol. Your wife is not overreacting- it's not healthy for you, and I imagine it tears at her soul to see you drunk.

The person I know managed to recover from alcoholism. Good for you for admitting you have an issue.

Here's where things get tough- in the near future, your buddies maybe will want to hang out and go for some drinks, or a special event will occur and you will want to celebrate. It doesn't matter what they say, "just one drink" will turn into two, then three and so on.It's going to take a while before you can really control yourself.

Remember your wife. You said it's "just a wife for now", so think of your future kid(s) as well. They won't have to deal with the shame and the pain of their dad having alcohol problems.

Good luck! Persevere, and you will succeed!