Quote:
Originally Posted by Phanuthier
People put way too many labels for gender. The whole chivalry towards women is BS. Offering a seat, holding open doors, helping someone get a luggage, you should offer help for those in need, not some phantom courtesy norm. If there is only 1 or 2 people behind me, I hold the door open for them regardless of age or gender. If I see someone who probably needs a seat (and assuming I'm not in a grumpy mood) I offer it up, regardless of age or gender. If I see someone struggling to get a heavy bag off the airport carasole (sp?) again I offer help.
That should be the social structure of courtesy and chivalry, not because some male wants to show everyone he's some sort of superman.
|
This is it for me, I do all of these things, but I don't do them based on status or gender. I do them because I want to, because I am a nice guy. But when someone tells me I am obligated to do them, or in a situation like this where the older lady clearly took advantage of the OP, I get upset.
You want to talk about being a gentleman, or being chivalrous? Doing noble deeds or polite things for strangers because I WANT to, not because I follow some code that forces me to, that is being a true gentleman.