[WilsonFourTwo]

Sorry about the news. I've had a couple friends and one brother go through a divorce, always sucks when it happens. Based on what I saw and what we've spoken about over the years:

Getting through the divorce:

1. Don't be "The Good Guy" just to get things settled quickly. Be fair, but don't be the welcome mat. Treat the dollars and cents issues as business, not personal.
2. Avoid Lawyers wherever reasonably possible, will save you a fortune. If the relationship is still solid (just the love's gone), mediation is probably a great route.
3. Remember that this isn't a shot at your manhood....people fall in and out of love all the time. Don't get fixated on the fact that it didn't last "forever".
4. Speaking to a counselor doesn't make you a wuss. If you need/want to talk (even just to bounce ideas around), have at it. A couple visits made a HUGE difference with my brother, really helped clear his head.

Getting past the divorce:

1. Obviously, you're still "Daddy" to a couple of kids. Continue to enjoy that role.
2. Joining a social club/league is huge. You're probably gonna have to expand your circle of friends a bit....."Shared" friends tend to fade away.
3. Think of the things you've always wanted to (selfishly) do. This includes the PS3, the Trip to Mexico or even the little blonde chick at the office. Pick one and go do it. No matter how good the situation is during the divorce, having a selfish stress release at the end gives you something to look forward to.

Specifically about the Parents/Refinancing:

1. If you have to sell the house (to clear up debts, etc), her parents living situation isn't your problem. This ONLY involves yourself, your 2 children and your partner.

Best of luck buddy! CP is here for ya (clearly)!