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Originally Posted by missdpuck
I was really bullied in high school. They say girls are the worst. I do remember it was always a gang of them, never one on one.
I was an extremely passive shy kid. I agree with those who say kids need to learn to defend themselves. It took me far far too long into adulthood to learn , and it messed up alot of things in my lfe.
I remember the teachers (problem was mainly in gym class), dean and primcipal did nothing. In fact they stuck me in detention when I complained.
It took me many many years to realize they were probably just trying to force me to stand up for myself.
For some reason I expected the adults/authorities to do it for me. But like many of you have pointed out , that's not the real world. All you really ever have is yourself. And sometimes it is necessary to stand up against authority, even your parents. Another hard thing for me to learn back then.
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No, they were ignoring the problem and not coming to the aide of the victim. You are feeling what should be their guilt and shame.
Being shy is hard enough to overcome. Add in the hard years of highschool where everyone is trying to fit in etc, it complicates shyness. Add in bullying on top of all that and it makes life for a shy person unbearable.
Maturity and living life in general prepares the person to overcomes their shyness and not let themself get run over by dominant people. No need for anyone to have to overcome it before they are ready....or at the hands of bullies.
And if shyness is part and parcel of who you are, then so be it. Some things we can not change about ourselves.
And yes, sometimes you do need to stand up against authority. In your case when you complained to the authorities of the school, you were punished. What a shame.