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Originally Posted by Devils'Advocate
I was at a funeral for a friends mother last week. I always cringe when they pass around the collection plate. If you just pass it without putting anything in, people look at you funny and you don't want to appear disrespectful at a funeral. On the other hand, the money being collected isn't going to my friend's family - it's going to the church. For building expenses, staff, etc.. Where I wouldn't normally be putting my money. But wanting to avoid seeming like a skinflint asshat, I tossed in a few bucks. I'm sure I'm not the only one that has donated out of a sense of obligation rather than generosity.
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You care too much what people will think of you. Let the plate pass by if you don't want to give. I've never seen a collection taken at a funeral. The family pays the costs.