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Originally Posted by Rhettzky
Which is a totally valid point. But he was probably expecting you to come over and ask him about the project, what you could do to help, offer to chip in, etc... Which is unreasonable given that he didn't speak to you first, but you should have still at least had a discussion with him about it. Like another poster said, offer to pay for a portion of it or just negotiate with him.
From his perspective, coming over to ensure that the fence was not affecting your property in any adverse way would make you look like an a-hole. Combine that with the fact that you didn't chip in a single cent for a shared fence, then yeah, I can see why he would go out of his way to mess with you.
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Understandable. When we were talking and I said no I'm not going to pay he started with the name calling. Once that happened I just left. Had he not done that I would have had the opportunity to explain to him why I didn't want to pay (which I did get to after the tow truck incident).
I tried to have a discussion with him on two occasions but how can you discuss something with someone when all they do is start name calling? It's hard to develop dialogue or anything for that matter. I called 311 and bylaw after all of this so, from my point of view at least, I tried my best to open dialogue with him. He refused so I went with the other options I have. Never once did I raise my voice or get angry.
I suppose he would be upset about the property line question but I didn't mean for it to come out in a negative or a-hole way. It was just a simple question and I assumed, like I said before, that he was okay with building and paying for it himself since he already started construction of it without asking me. I was under the impression that if a neighbour wants to add/construct something that they share with you they talk to you first. My other neighbour came and talked to me about a fence and grass before they did anything.