I thought I read an article a while back about a study done blindly genotyping for panrental ID purposes and some silly amount of Dads are not actually the true fathers of the children.
Anyways,separate issue. Not to toot my own horn, but I had a child at 19 with an 18 year old (17 and 18 at conception) and have a great relationship with the mother and my son. I realized at that time that she was not someone I could marry (I knew before she was pregnant - at 18 I was not looking for a mate). It was a difficult at the time for both of us because of the uncertainty, but ultimately has been in my son's best interest. We both deeply realize the importance of his rights over our own and that has made it easier. I have had to bite my toungue (his birthday present from her at SEVEN (!!!!) was an eminem CD) at times, but she also took on extra parenting while I was in school. There have been relationship issues for both of us due to our inevitable need for communication, though maybe more for her than me. While I know these circumstances are not ideal for everybody, IMO it would work for more people if they could think big picture (ie. not complaining when decisions are made regarding his well being that I disagree with). Getting along at all cost has been the hallmark of my son's life with his Mom and Dad
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