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Originally Posted by Titan
So the duped father never had sex with the mother? How is it relevant whose sperm made the final contact. He was acting as a partner and father and was present and acted as a parent and then all of a sudden he finds out the kid is genetically not his so he can walk away? Be mad at the wife, that is fair. It is not the kids fault. You ARE the dad as far as the kid knows. You were the father for 10-18 years and you could just walk away from that kid? The relationship between the dad and the kid is the important one. I could not comprehend walking away from my kid after 1 month even if it was not my actual seed. After 10 years? Unfathomable.
It would be nice if the bio-dad kicked in a few bucks but again it is irrelevant. It is the relationship with the father that matters.
Justice is irrelevant and very rarely achieved in most situations once the courts are involved. It is a matter of finding the least fata upped option. At the end of the day it is what is best for the kid. Period. More parents should look at it this way and the incidents of messy divorce would go way down. Not holding my breath.
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I agree that every child needs a relationship with a "father."
That is why I am in favour of
mandatory paternity tests for every baby at birth.
That way there are no secrets the "father" knows whether he is the biological dad or not before he and the child can form a bond.
Some men will choose to raise a child that is not biologically theirs.
The duped male should not be forced to raise a child that is not his.
The mom would need to figure out who the biological father is so that he can take responsibility for the child he fathered.