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Originally Posted by Regorium
...Also, I will preface by saying that I am not a parent at the moment, and I don't know whether or not my thoughts will change when I am. I feel that thinking about this from the child's perspective is not justice. The father is the one that has been screwed for 10-18 years, and it is the mother's fault for being a whore. The mother should shoulder the responsibility (financial and otherwise) for her actions, but the law courts have decided that the duped man should be the one responsible for the mother's actions. This is regardless of how the child feels. Should the child feel like the dad abandoned them, maybe they should point the blame where it correctly belongs: the mother.
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So the duped father never had sex with the mother? How is it relevant whose sperm made the final contact. He was acting as a partner and father and was present and acted as a parent and then all of a sudden he finds out the kid is genetically not his so he can walk away? Be mad at the wife, that is fair. It is not the kids fault. You ARE the dad as far as the kid knows. You were the father for 10-18 years and you could just walk away from that kid? The relationship between the dad and the kid is the important one. I could not comprehend walking away from my kid after 1 month even if it was not my actual seed. After 10 years? Unfathomable.
It would be nice if the bio-dad kicked in a few bucks but again it is irrelevant. It is the relationship with the father that matters.
Justice is irrelevant and very rarely achieved in most situations once the courts are involved. It is a matter of finding the least fata upped option. At the end of the day it is what is best for the kid. Period. More parents should look at it this way and the incidents of messy divorce would go way down. Not holding my breath.