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Originally posted by HelloHockeyFans@Sep 7 2005, 10:42 PM
Her, not wanting to get into a relationship with you because of your race, is by definition, racism.
Choosing to not date someone because of their race is most definitely racist. The decision your friend made was based on preference. But let's not forget that it was a decision made with a racist viewpoint.
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So true, its just like saying if I were to meet an african american girl (I dont like refering to them as black, I dont know why, just always been like that)..anyways, and if I were to first assume they were the same culture as me. When I do find out that they are not, would I all of a sudden stop talking to them and take a complete u-turn? I dont think so! Why? I have more self respect, self morals, class, dignity. Furthermore, because I look beneath race and skin colour. Many people use race and/or skin colour as a label in life, but I dont. What is it gonna get you in life? Where is it gonna take you in life with a narrow minded attitude and way of thinking like that? I dont care if the person is brown, yellow, white, turqoise or aqua or has 3rd degree burns all over their body, it wouldnt affect my way of thinking towards them whatsoever.
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Definitions of Racism on the Web:
* Any attitude, action or institutional structure which systematically treats an individual or group of individuals differently because of their race. The most common form of racism in North America is in the form discrimination against African-Americans.
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This is exactly the case. Sure preferences play a part in it, but it all branches out from a racist point of view.
If anything, my parents are the exact same as hers, just not to the extreme extent of it all. They would definitely prefer for me to marry someone of the same race. Sure, I may be most attracted to a certain race(s), but that does not mean I will look down on other races. Do my parents force me to think like them? Hell no, because I have enough control in my life to just live life how you choose to. You only live once, and I just couldnt imagine living with such limitations in life. That is what bothers me the most in todays society, how people can just judge others of different races to be "different."
For instance, personally, over the years I have never been all that attracted all that much to african american girls, but from having an open mind and personality, what do you know...I have dated two, and made many good friends out of it. The same goes when it comes to women's point of view on this issue, they will respect a man much much more who does not live with these restrictions, who will love an individual for who they are inside, no matter what origin they are from.
I just cant imagine anyone, dating or even wanting to know, bond on an ongoing basis with someone like this. It will draw nothing but conflicts between the two of you. If they see, having friendships with people outside of their race as "paranormal", then how will they accept your friends of other cultures? It's just all so negative.