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Originally Posted by AFireInside
I wouldn't live my life to please her family. In my situation, I stated that if she really really wanted to get married, then I'd probably do it. FOR HER....
Maybe I consider marriage a religious ceremony, and maybe that goes against my beliefs.
It doesn't matter why I choose to not get married, it's not an indication of anything. It doesn't represent my level of commitment to my gf.
The dad needs to get a grip and realize it's 2010.
You can try and twist not getting married however you like.
I'm going to look at marriage as meaning you are insecure, needy, and constantly worried that your significant other is going to leave you so you are trying to find some way to ENSURE they don't leave. Having a joint account is a way to constantly monitor your significant other because you have very low self esteem and need to know what they are doing at all times because you do not trust them and want to control them.
*clearly sarcasm*.
You can twist it how you like, people have reasons for doing things like getting married, or not getting married. Thats between the couple in the relationship, if they are happy no one else should judge them for it, caving just to please one person is silly. That person (father in this case) needs to grow up and open his mind just a little bit.
Still back to the original issue, sleeping on the couch for a couple days is no biggie, and shows some respect for the father in house. Then again getting a hotel should not offend the father either and should be fine.
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Look, all I'm trying to do is put myself in the father's percpetion, and try to rationalize his thinking. There's a whole slew of reasons why people choose not to get married. All I'm saying is, that's probably what the dad is thinking. It isn't right or wrong how you or the father thinks. It's just a point where you guys disagree.
Like I said, if I knew my in-laws cared so much about a formal marriage, and I didn't care either way, I would do it as a kind gesture to them, that's all.