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Originally Posted by The Yen Man
Well, here's my mentality if I were the gf's dad. You say marriage is just a piece of paper, it doesn't mean squat to you both. It's the bond that you both share that defines the relationship. Ok, I'll accept that. So that means signing that piece of paper should mean nothing to you either way. Why don't you make me, the reglious, conservative dad, and my family happy by signing it then and making it official? Afterall, like you said, it's not going to change anything. All it will change is make both sides happy; the dad seeing his daughter officially married, and you, now that the father in law won't be on your back about it. Win win both ways.
Any other excuse to not get married tells me, the dad, that you aren't as fully committed as you think you are.
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I wouldn't live my life to please her family. In my situation, I stated that if she really really wanted to get married, then I'd probably do it. FOR HER....
Maybe I consider marriage a religious ceremony, and maybe that goes against my beliefs.
It doesn't matter why I choose to not get married, it's not an indication of anything. It doesn't represent my level of commitment to my gf.
The dad needs to get a grip and realize it's 2010.
You can try and twist not getting married however you like.
I'm going to look at marriage as meaning you are insecure, needy, and constantly worried that your significant other is going to leave you so you are trying to find some way to ENSURE they don't leave. Having a joint account is a way to constantly monitor your significant other because you have very low self esteem and need to know what they are doing at all times because you do not trust them and want to control them.
*clearly sarcasm*.
You can twist it how you like, people have reasons for doing things like getting married, or not getting married. Thats between the couple in the relationship, if they are happy no one else should judge them for it, caving just to please one person is silly. That person (father in this case) needs to grow up and open his mind just a little bit.
Still back to the original issue, sleeping on the couch for a couple days is no biggie, and shows some respect for the father in house. Then again getting a hotel should not offend the father either and should be fine.